Why do I feel the way I feel?
Throughout a single day we can feel countless emotions, all in the collections of moments passed. These emotions impact our thoughts, moods, behaviors and result in favorable or unfavorable outcomes in our life. They can even set the tone for major life decisions.
Emotions are so strong that we assign them to people, foods, places and even material possessions.
I love to eat this dish, it reminds me of my mom’s cooking
This is my first bike and I don’t ever want to sell it!
These are just a couple sentences you might have heard in conversation. Even we, ourselves might have used them now and then to show how intensely we feel about something.
Yet, rarely is self – reflection to understand our emotions a part of many people’s daily routine. If you ask someone why they feel such an emotional connection to the person or object in question, some people might just shrug and say that they don’t know. Others might give a superficial answer, Like in case of food, because my mom cooked exactly the same. Or in the case of bike, well because it’s my first bike and a lot of memories are associated with it.
While these people are not obligated to share their deepest thoughts with you, the fact is not many are aware of the real reasons of their emotions. A craving for someone to care for you like your mother did, or holding on to past memories because you feel unhappy, and the bike reminds you of a better time in your life- causing you to live in the past rather than the present. The reasons may vary from one person to another, each reason being unique and important in its own right.
These are the deeper reasons to emotions, emotion which govern our present and determine our future.
Emotion are manifestations of our core beliefs. And these beliefs can be helpful or unhelpful for living a happy and fulfilling life. By acknowledging, understanding and accepting ourselves, by removing the unhelpful beliefs, we can improve our relationships. But how do we find our core beliefs, and if they are helpful? The answer is Self-reflection, leading to better self-awareness. This answer might seem simple but the journey is life long and can get messy too.
There are few people who dive head first into this journey of self-awareness, and then some who consciously stay away, afraid of what they might find. Oh, it definitely takes a lot of courage to put yourself in a spotlight, dissect your own thoughts and beliefs. Objectively examine them and do a house cleaning of sorts. You never know what you might stumble across… It could be dark and ugly… Or those might just be some cobwebs and a good cleaning could bring out the hidden potential you never knew existed. Whatever you find in this journey of self-awareness, one thing is guaranteed, you will definitely find yourself!
So, when was the last time you sat down and questioned yourself about your feelings, your emotions?